Can I add your classes to my baby registry?
Yes, absolutely! Many parents have benefited from the generosity of their loved ones and added my classes, 1:1 consultations, and the products I recommend directly from my site. If you have any questions on how to do this (or want a customized link for simplified checkout), simply send me an email. I'd be happy to help.
Do you use affiliate links?
Yes, I do. I do not take product recommendations lightly, and want only what has proven to be the 'best-of-the-best" for parents. As such, I spend quite a bit of time researching and considering what products are:
2. Proven effective (by research, or in-practice)
4. Ethically sourced (where applicable)
I provide links directly to these products from my site, and receive a modest commission from Amazon. This does not impact your price, and your support is appreciated.
Will you ask me to let my baby cry-it-out (CIO)?
No. I will not ask you to do anything you are not prepared for, feel informed about or do not feel right about doing. My approach in working with families is to inform parents, assess for baby's readiness, read what is needed and make suggestions. It is very important to me not to have any agenda in regards to what should be done and I believe very strongly that each family gets to make informed decisions that best suit their family's needs. Having said that, I am also honest, I will coach you, I will make suggestions and give guidance. But I really see this agreement as a partnership in creating healthy sleep habits. Learning something new is tough for both parents and babies/toddlers. I won’t say that there will be zero crying, because babies sometimes cry. They cry when they are wet, while they are getting their diapers changed, when they are hungry. It is their way of communicating. I don’t want parents to feel like they have failed if their baby cries during sleep changes.
How does sleep training affect attachment?
While there are a lot of claims within current parenting ideologies that sleep training negatively affects attachment, there is no research that supports this idea. The truth is, there are many variables that affect attachment. What we know with sleep is that establishing a secure attachment in the first 4 months and beyond is crucial for self regulation. Cortisol levels fluctuate throughout the day and can be impacted by a variety of factors that may or may not include sleep training. Creating a well timed and thoughtfully planned sleep plan means being able to read your child’s cues, and this includes knowing when to give them time and space to practice a new task. In my work, I focus on increasing emotional availability during bedtime. I am happy to share research with any of my clients who are interested.
But, what about that one study that showed increased cortisol levels with CIO?
That study used what is commonly known as the extinction method on very young babies (under 16 weeks of age). There was night weaning involved (which many babies at that are are not ready for physiologically). And, here’s the kicker, they took young babies away from their parents and did the study with nurses in a hospital. So, these babies were away from their parents, in a strange place, and forced to night wean at a young age. Yes, that will raise cortisol levels. This was not viable research nor does it match the approach that I use. I support parents in keeping night feeds until the baby is at a healthy age for night weaning, and parents are always present for sleep changes.
What is The Millette Method?
Dr. Angelique Millette is a family sleep researcher based in San Francisco, CA and Austin, TX. With over twenty years of working with families, Dr. Millette has developed The Millette Method™ - a multi-disciplinary approach to family sleep. The Millette Method™ does not follow one specific sleep method, but rather uses a “tool-box” of different methods and takes into account family schedule, child development, temperament, and parenting philosophy, all while keeping an eye on sleep deprivation, parental overwhelm, and emotional health. Dr. Millette’s research addresses the relationship between infant sleep locations, maternal mood disorders, and attachment. Her doctorate of Clinical Psychology, specializes in Pre and Perinatal Psychology.
What is Sarah's Certification?
The Millette Method program requires 2 years of training one on one with program developer and founder Dr. Angelique Millette. The Millette MethodTM Pediatric Sleep Consultant Program is the only program in the country that requires that all enrolled practitioners have an MA, MS, PhD, or PsyD and also Lactation Educator training. All of the practitioners have a background in Child Development, Family Systems Approach, Infant Mental Health, Perinatal Mental Health including Postpartum Depression, Anxiety, and Insomnia, Lactation Education and/or Consulting, and Counseling.
Will I have to night wean my baby?
No. I chose to partner with and learn from Dr. Millette in large part because of this important component to a baby's well being. Dr. Millette requires consultants she trains to become certified Lactation Educators so that we understand the importance of maintaining supply and the relationship of feeding baby, whether bottle or breast. My commitment to my clients is to communicate honestly about what needs babies and parents have and base our (parents + me, in partnership) decision about night weaning on many variables. Parents always have the last say in when they are ready to night wean their babies. Some parents are ready as soon as they get the green light from their pediatricians, and other families really enjoy a cozy nighttime feed.
Will you tell us where baby should sleep?
No. My goal is sleep for everyone. I don’t make judgments on where that happens. As a team, parents and I will look at many variables and see what works best for their family. Some families thrive in a shared bed. Some thrive in separate bedrooms. There are many choices in between. It’s a family preference, and as long as everyone is getting healthy safe and sleep, I’m in!
What age baby do you work with?
I am trained to work with babies age 0-12 months. Beyond those ages, I refer out to a wonderful group of colleagues who are specifically trained to work with toddlers and children facing sleep challenges.
I see you do Parent Coaching, what's that?
You cannot talk about Infant Sleep unless you also explore how the parents are adjusting.
Parenthood is a journey to understand who we are, what we stand for, and what we wish to learn. To do that requires us to , be aware, drop perfection and not take short cuts as much as possible.
I aim to support the whole person—the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspect of your life as a parent.
Some of the themes that parents wish to focus on are: post partum adjustment, perfectionism, isolation, feelings of inadequacy, change of identity, the importance of intuition, career path, health challenges, changes in relationships.